Goop Founder Gwyneth Paltrow on Successfully Co-Parenting With Ex Chris Martin. Plus, Drew & Gwyneth Play "Drew-Phemisms"
ON TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 22ND’S THE DREW BARRYMORE SHOW
GOOP FOUNDER GWYNETH PALTROW ON SUCCESSFULLY CO-PARENTING WITH EX CHRIS MARTIN
PLUS, DREW & GWYNETH PLAY “DREW-PHEMISMS” TO COME UP WITH ALTERNATIVE WORDS THAT ARE DAYTIME TV FRIENDLY
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Gwyneth Paltrow on How She Successfully Co-Parents With Ex Chris Martin
Drew: I really love how you co-parent and you have been a major beacon of just how it can be done because no parent on earth probably signs up to have kids and then wants to have the plan change. How did you know to do this in this way. I mean you literally gave a euphemism for divorce that makes us all feel like we are saying it with a flare of dignity and hope. How did you take something broken and fix it?
Gwyneth: I mean it’s so interesting because in a way my divorce and my relationship with Chris now is better than our marriage was. So I do think that it can be done. I was really lucky because I had a doctor who kind of gave us a rubric for how to do it and luckily he’s writing a book and I think it’s coming out next year, thank goodness, because it really kind of lays out the tenants of how you do it and it’s a little bit unsurprising right? You have to have radical accountability. You have to know that every relationship is 50/50. No matter what you think, how you think you were wronged, or how bad you perceive the other persons actions, or whatever the case may be. If you are brave enough to take responsibility for your half and really look at your own garbage and your own trauma and how it’s presenting in the world and in your relationship then there really is somewhere to go and something to learn and something to heal. You are also holding the other person in this sphere of humanity. We are all part good and part bad, it’s not binary, we are all grey area. We all are trying our best. I really wanted my kids to not be traumatized, if it were possible. Chris and I committed to putting them first and that’s harder than it looks because some days you really don’t want to be with the person that you are getting divorced from but if you’re committed to having family dinner then you do it. And you take a deep breath and you look the person In the eye and you remember your pact and you smile and you hug and you make a hug and recommit to this new relationship that you are trying to foster.
Drew: None of us want to get it wrong for our kids but just because of what happened in the marriage is not about the parenting. This is about their relationship with their dad and their mom, not about their relationship with your marriage.
Gwyneth: You know what you said it, it’s like you’re ending a marriage but you’re still in a family. That’s how it will be forever. Some days it’s not as good as it looks. We also have good days and bad days but I think it’s driving towards the same purpose of unity and love and what’s best for them. We have this idea that just because we break up we can’t love the things about the person anymore that we loved and that’s not true.
Gwyneth & Drew Play “Drew-Phemisms”
Drew: GP you’ve come up with some new ways of saying and doing so many things that I wanted to tap you to come up with some euphemisms or Drew-Phemisms to have some alternative words because it turns out in the daytime TV space there are only certain words you can say and certain words you can not say. Will you help me?...Figuring out new language for daytime TV with my friend GP…I need something for butt because I am only allowed to say it once and I just said it.
Gwyneth: Reserved seating.
Drew: Built in bean bag chair.
Gwyneth: The old Rumpelstiltskin.
Drew: Two scoops.
Gwyneth: The great divide.
Drew: ….Okay we cannot refer to another part of the anatomy and it starts with V and ends with ina. GP go.
Gwyneth: Lady bits.
Drew: Fina china.
Gwyneth: Pepperoni roll.
Drew: Personal pan pizza.
Gwyneth: Life’s cornucopia.
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